In conclusion, I would like to share why I have chosen to pursue the path of courtship instead of more typical dating relationships.
First of all, I believe modern dating fosters a lack of commitment, and I don't have any desire to waste my time dating guys that have no intention of moving toward marriage.
Furthermore, I love the concept of getting to know someone primarily within the context of family. I've learned that I can't trust my judgment even in dating relationships (much less with deciding who I will spend the rest of my life with!), so I greatly value my parents' wisdom and opinions. I can't even begin to explain how freeing it is to have my parents' support in this matter. This is the most important earthly decision I will ever make (outside of salvation, of course) and I don't have to decide all by myself!
I have been especially grateful for my dad's wisdom and discernment over the past few years when their have been situations that have warranted his involvement. Because I am a girl, my emotions tend to cloud out reality when it comes to these matters (i.e. "well, he doesn't really seem to be walking closely with God or preparing to be the spiritual leader of a family, but he does attend church and he sure is cute!!!"). My dad, however, is able to view young men with a more realistic mindset and "screen" them so I don't have to.
Finally, by choosing to wait for God to bring the right man into my life, I have had the opportunity to practice building the spiritual muscles of trust and contentment. Being still and waiting on God's timing have been the biggest challenges I have yet to encounter in my walk with the Lord, but I believe He is using this time of uncertainty and sometimes discouragement to teach me so much about being faithful where I am and finding rest and fulfillment in Him.
I've run out of time to write tonight, but I hope to post my list of other books I recommend on this subject tomorrow!
Thursday, February 26, 2009
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4 comments:
I know your parents are so proud of you and I am thankful my daughters read your blog.
Lisa Q
I like what you said Meredith about this subject! I have been raised with the Joshua Harris books and I agreed with them. I found some families were way over board with the issue of courting that built resentment in the kids, but you stated it beautifully! "We must keep the balance of the two extremes of lawlessness and legalism". I admire those who can make through all the confusion of this age and culture and come out on top with the Lords light still shinning ever so bright! I think that you are such a beautiful woman who has much wisdom and understanding and your wisdom will bless your husband in so many ways.
Meredith, your so awesome! :) The man that is your future husband is a going to be a blessed guy! :)
Amen Sister!! Great job in giving your opinion of courtship. My family struggles with the delicate balance of lawlessness and legalism. I really liked your insight on that.
In Christ,
Sarah
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